Personal Growth is one petal on the Project Me Life Wheel®, yet Project Me as a whole is about your personal development. Life never stands still, it’s constantly evolving and changing. You can either see it as a white-knuckle roller-coaster ride, or you can find ways to make it all less hair-raising.
Focusing on your self-development is far from selfish. When you transform yourself, you transform the world around you including, of course, your immediate family.
We’ve all heard the saying, ‘If mama’s happy, everybody’s happy!’ and this is certainly true from my perspective. Just ask my family.
It’s normal to flit back and forth between your Best Version (the one who’s patient, calm, kind, relaxed and lighthearted) and your Poor Version (you know, that other one who’s irritable, impatient, worried or overwhelmed).
But wouldn’t you love to be the Best Version of You more often?
If I were to create a graph chart of my own personal growth over the years it would show a rather zig zagged line upwards until recently when it suddenly shot way up.
You’d see growth surges at certain times, such as when I discovered yoga and began attending positive thinking workshops at my local Sivananda centre. There’s an overall steady progression – with lots of dips along the way.
A surge would appear again whenever I read an inspirational book that got my cogs turning about my life.
Around seven years ago I finally identified Personal Growth as one of my 8 Key Life Areas that needs regular attention. I created a Personal Mastermind and began meeting with my Power Posse once a month, rating this area of my life on a score of 1-10. When I noticed a low score, I’d make more of an effort to do some yoga, read a great book, journal write, attend a positive workshop or take a course.
Then I began a morning practice of waking before the kids and staying in bed to write in my gratitude journal or meditate. And setting a monthly date with myself and my Project Me. The chart looks less choppy and grows steadily upwards.
I received a huge personal growth boost when I read Ask & It Is Given by Esther Hicks. I was ready for that book by then and it resonated with every cell in my body. It would have been too far-out and woo woo for me any earlier.
In September 2015 my 16 year old son and I began a morning E.F.T. Tapping session before school. (I’ll record a video soon to show you how we do it.) It’s helped us both to love and accept ourselves and others exactly as we/they are. My self-talk became much more friendly and I’ve tamed my mean inner critic.
In January 2016 two new practices collided which have catapulted my personal growth to all time high levels.
1. I began attending a weekly Kundalini yoga class with Gabrielle Thill. I’ve done many types of yoga before, but Kundalini is so deeply spiritual and I float out of each class feeling light, free and in the flow. (Flow is my word of the year!)
2. I discovered the Insight Timer meditation app. Meditation is one of those things I’ve always felt I ‘should’ be doing and I certainly tried on and off over the years. But this particular app is what has finally created a daily meditation habit for me and is something I actually look forward to the moment I wake up. I need a lot of variety or I get bored and restless, so I love it that there are thousands of guided mediations of varying lengths and subjects to choose from. I’m like a kid in a candy store each morning as I choose which one I’ll listen to that day. It’s like getting a daily valuable lesson in personal growth and sometimes I’ll listen to a 2-5 minute mediation to re-set me again during the day and another one before bed. Yep, I’m addicted!
Six months later and I feel like I have a direct hotline to the Universe. I feel connected in such a powerful way. I live with much more purpose. I’m better able to observe emotions as they rise and fall without attaching myself to them as strongly as I used to. I’m rolling with the punches a lot easier. And there’s been a very BIG punch lately.
I’m not sure what the next phase of my personal growth will bring me but I know that by keeping up my regular practices I won’t let that graph chart go all zig-zagged again. I can keep it rising up steadily.
I’m turning 50 very soon and it’s exciting to think that if I live to be 100 (which I think I will!), I am now only halfway there. If my personal growth keeps progressing at this rate, I have a very exciting next half of my life to experience!
Now, what about you? Are you towards the beginning of your personal growth journey? Does it feel steadily rising or is it full of ups and downs? What can you be doing to give yourself a personal growth boost? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments below.
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