Imagine these two scenarios:
A: You’re at a coffee morning with some local mothers and it turns into a competitive moan over who’s had the least sleep, the worst behaved kid or laziest husband. It then slides into celebrity scandals which morphs into idle gossip about other mothers who are not there.
B: You meet up with up with a friend and, after a catch up, you take turns sharing your current challenges and brainstorming solutions. You set some goals, create plans of action and set a date to meet up again in one month to share your successes.
Which of those would leave you help you feel more positive and motivated about life? Which would leave you as drained as ever?
Getting together with a friend regularly for the ‘soul’ purpose of helping each other through life’s ups and downs is one of the most positive ways to harness the power of friendship. (tweet this!)
Yet too often we slide into complaining mode without even realising it.
Complaining is a complete waste of time, yet it feels easier than figuring out a solution. It becomes a bad habit and begins to feel normal. The same goes for gossip. It creates bad energy. It gives me the creeps.
A few years ago I formed a Power Posse with my friends Suzie and Anna. They didn’t yet know each other but we’d all attended a series of life coaching workshops and wanted a way of keeping on top of the changes we’d begun to make. We were looking for accountability – and boy did we find it.
We had no idea then that we were onto something so life changing.
We’ve met up once a month for the past five years and our lives are so much better because of it.
We take it in turns to talk about whatever life’s currently throwing at us and we coach each other into solutions. No matter how busy we are, we carve out time for these monthly mastermind sessions because we know the small time investment gives a huge payoff.
We leave each other feeling fired up and focused. It’s amazing to feel so in control of our lives – instead of life controlling us!
Now that we live in different countries, our monthly pow-wows happen over Skype.
I’ll admit in the early days we bumbled along, not quite sure what we were doing, but over time our sessions developed like a fine wine. (Often over a bottle of wine.)
Now when we get together we nail it quickly and easily. The progress we’ve each made is mindblowing! We’re more self-aware and solutions focused. Each year just gets better and better.
I’m excited to say that our winning formula has been turned into a fabulous Power Pal Pack so you can form your own Power Pair or Posse and get straight into creating your own coaching sessions!
You don’t have to be a certified Life Coach to coach a friend. This workbook contains everything you need to create sessions that rock! It has fantastic printable worksheets and easy to follow, step by step instructions.
Get your Project Me Power Pal Pack here!
In the comments below I’d love to hear what you think. Are you into group coffee mornings and gatherings, or more into one one one meet ups? Do you feel you have a supportive network of friends? Or one special friend you can share everything with?
Mixing practicality with self-awareness, Kelly helps mothers get on top of their endless to-do’s and see life beyond the laundry pile. Grab her free Life Wheel Tool for discovering what needs your focus first.