How To Be A More Peaceful, Loving Mother
Do any of these sound familiar?
- You love personal and spiritual growth, but you don’t make it a regular part of your day.
- You want to experience the calm and peace you read about in all the books you buy, but instead you feel overwhelmed and disconnected.
- You know your life would be better if you took time to meditate (or do yoga or journal), but you’ve already got too much on your plate.
- You’re not looking for a major life overhaul. You want to do something small and simple that will improve the quality of your life now.
If the words above resonated with you, you’re not alone.
My online business buddy Peggy Freeh printed this on her website and it made me sit up straight and listen to what she has to say.
I’m one of those mamas who wants to be more mindful and self-aware. I crave personal growth and know that when I give this part of my life the attention it deserves I’m a much more peaceful and loving mother.
When my soul is being fed, I can begin to see life beyond the laundry pile. I feel less hard-done-by. I’m also a better wife, friend – human being. I eat better, I take care of myself. I’m fun! I have more to give and I feel so much happier.
I used to buy all of the inspirational books and I genuinely wanted to put all of the great things I read into my daily life, but then things would get hectic and I’d slip back into my old ways. I knew what I was capable of if I’d only stay focused on the positive! It wasn’t easy.
One area I knew I needed to work on was my mornings. I was a B.I.T.C.H. of a mother in the early hours and my poor kids bore the brunt of it. I’d wake up and immediately begin barking at them to get up, get dressed and have breakfast so I could get them to school on time.
I remember dropping them off at the school gates, then putting my head on the steering wheel and crying. I wanted to be patient and kind, but there was something about being on mama duty from the moment I opened my bleary eyes that made it so damn hard for me to be nice.
My saving grace was the weekends when my husband let me sleep in a bit. He didn’t mind getting up with the kids on weekends when he didn’t have to leave for work at the crack of dawn. (He is a morning person!)
I’d sleep in, then stay in bed a while longer to write in my journal. Hashing out problems or having a vent on paper is always good therapy for me. Seeing things in black and white helps me to make sense of my thoughts and emotions. By the time I got out of bed I’d feel a better connection to myself and have kind of a game plan for how I wanted my day to go.
It never occurred to me to get up before the kids on weekdays to have this quiet time to myself. All my life I’d told myself ‘I am not a morning person’, so this did not feel like an option for me!
Finally I began to finally wake up 15 minutes before the kids on weekdays. It wasn’t easy, but I set myself a challenge to try it for 21 days. (The amount of time it’s supposed to take to create a habit.)
It’s made a wonderful difference in my life. I stay in bed and either listen to a guided meditation on a phone app, do some Tapping, write in my gratitude journal, or read one of my positive books. I have a toolbox of inspiration in a shoebox under my bed.
It means that when I go to wake the kids up for school, I’m in a calm, loving state – which puts them in a good mood to do everything they need to do without me nagging. (Hurrah!)
Not only have our mornings turned around, but it’s helping me to score a big fat 10 on the personal growth petal on my Project Me Life Wheel®!
I hadn’t thought of this as a ‘Daily Practice’ until I discovered Peggy Freeh and her podcasts and website www.simpledailypractice.com. Peggy firmly believes that no matter how full-to-the-brim your life feels, there is always time for a Simple Daily Practice that’ll work for you.
Even the busiest of mothers can do this.
Maybe you don’t have to do it in the mornings, but think of what a calmer parent you’d be if you found some way to weave a small, positive practice into your daily life. And the beautiful influence that would have on your kids. It’s that ME time that you crave and you know you need, but you never seem to have time for.
I was recently interviewed by Peggy so I could share my own journey towards developing this daily practice that has dramatically improved my life.
You can find my interview here on Simple Daily Practice.
Don’t be put off that my simple daily practice happens before my kids wake up! Or that I’ve added a second practice after my lunch on weekdays. Peggy’s website has lots of great tips for how to create a practice that fits in with your life. You can always start slow and ease yourself in. That’s how I did it.
In the comments below, share what you think about whether creating a daily practice would help you to be a more peaceful, loving mother. Does it feel impossible to imagine that you’d find the time? Are you already making time? What kinds of things help you to feel more mindful and self-aware? Peggy and I would love to hear your thoughts.
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