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Parents: Take This Helpful Personality Test

Getting to know yourself is an important part of your Personal Growth. The more you learn about why you think and feel the way you do, the more you understand yourself – and others. You begin to fully appreciate that we all approach the same situations from different points of view and there is no absolute ‘right’ or ‘wrong’.

Have you heard of the Myers–Briggs personality test? It’s an introspective questionnaire that helps you identify which of one of the 16 different personality types you are based on how you perceive the world around you and how you make decisions.  It can lead to some interesting insights into why you do things a certain way – or why you do them at all.

There’s an free online version of this test created by www.16personalities.com which has been adapted to include two additional layers to gain an even deeper interpretation. You’ll find out what kind of career you’re most suited for, what you’re like as a friend and in romantic relationships, as well as your parenting strengths and weaknesses.

Once I took it, I discovered some fresh insights about myself. The results put me right smack in the middle of the introvert– extrovert scale. It definitely depends on the situation and whom I’m with. I wrote about my introverted tendencies here before I’d taken the test and when I was still struggling to understand this about myself.

I’m a Protagonist: ENFJ personality which makes up only two per cent of the population and explains my desire to want to lead others and myself to a brighter future. Famous ENFJ people include Barack Obama and Oprah Winfrey.

My report highlighted that ‘ENFJs are genuine, caring people who talk the talk and walk the walk, and nothing makes them happier than leading the charge, uniting and motivating their team with infectious enthusiasm.’   I’d say that sums me up quite accurately. 

I’ve taken the test multiple times over the years, convinced I’d get different results as I felt I was merely guessing at many of the questions, but each time I get the same ENFJ result – with my E (extrovert) coming out only marginally higher than my I (introvert). I’m intuitive more than observant (which explains why I rarely notice if a friend has lost weight or changed her hair-style, but I’m very tuned into how they are feeling.)  I’m highly cooperative (I’ve often said I don’t have a competitive bone in my body), emotionally expressive, and prefer planning, structure and organisation rather than improvising and ‘winging it’. (My Master Your To-Do List Training Video sure confirms that!)

It was interesting to read about my personality as a parent:

‘ENFJ parents take pride in nurturing and inspiring strong values, and they take care to ensure that the basis for these values comes from understanding, not blind obedience. Whatever their children need in order to learn and grow, ENFJ parents give the time and energy necessary to provide it. While in their weaker moments they may succumb to more manipulative behaviour, ENFJs mostly rely on their charm and idealism to make sure their children take these lessons to heart.’

My husband I rarely saw eye-to-eye when it came to disciplining our kids when they were small. I wish we’d both taken this test so we could have discussed how to better balance our individual approaches without each thinking the other was ‘wrong’. Showing a ‘united front’ was never our strong point.

Here’s what some mothers have said after seeing their personality test results:

I’m a big believer in this test. My husband and I did it as marriage prep and discovered we’re complete opposites. It helps me (in particular) to know how to approach him about things and how he handles and reacts to situations. For years we struggled to understand each other; now it’s much more harmonious.

It taught me so much about myself and how I relate to others; also getting to know other people that have a similar personality to mine made me feel less of a weirdo. As an INFJ, I’m the most rare and complex personality type – one per cent of the population! It’s a really fun thing to do and helps to find out about other people around you too.

I don’t always feel like a ‘fun’ person but I’ve come to realise after taking the test that as an introvert I often have a different idea of fun than others who like lots of socialising. Fun to me can be a cosy hour on the couch with my cat and a good book or a family movie night. I’m also part of a book club which meets every six weeks.

A couple of years ago our teenage son was studying psychology in school and his teacher encouraged him to take this personality test. He came out as a Campaigner: ENFP-T: Someone who has strong people skills and will bring an energy that often times thrusts them into the spotlight, held up by their peers as a leader and a guru.  He’s now an elected member of UK Youth Parliament and this describes him perfectly.

A big part of becoming the expert of you and creating your own Project Me is getting to know and understand yourself better. Taking this personality test can help you to practise more self-compassion for your weaknesses and have confidence in your strengths.

Take the online personality test here: www.16personalities.com. It’s free and there’s no registration required to see your results. 

In the comments below, share your personality type and/or any insights you’ve learned about yourself after taking this personality test. I’ll love to read what you have to say.

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  1. P on January 15, 2018 at 9:51 AM

    Oh wow this is very fascinating already and I have only just started to look at my full report. I am a INFP – The Mediator.

    For parenting it says The biggest challenge for INFP parents, especially more turbulent types who often have even more trouble with self-doubt than most, is to establish more practical and day-to-day structures and rules.

    This is funny because only last weekend I began thinking about creating written rule charts for the kids and more structure! I’ll get on that right away. Thanks for sharing this! I want to take your advice and get to know myself better this year. xx

    • Kelly Pietrangeli on January 17, 2018 at 9:51 PM

      Glad it’s given you some insights and great food for thought! ????

  2. Jayne on January 15, 2018 at 10:03 AM

    I’d taken a version of this test a long time ago and remembered that I’m a ESFJ and just took this test now and yes, same result! The Consul. As a parent – overprotective. Eeek that’s me. Already thinking ahead to when my son will grow up and leave me, sad but true. I really like the advice it gives me:

    It’s important to remember that when grown children leave the home, it’s because their parents were successful in preparing them for the next phase of their lives, an accomplishment ESFJs can be proud of.

    I am going to read my full report later with a cup of tea and make some notes. I love this – thank you Kelly! 🙂

    • Kelly Pietrangeli on January 17, 2018 at 9:53 PM

      Yep. That’s why I wanted to write this post and share the test with you all. It can reveal some very fascinating insights. Thanks for sharing your results Jayne! ????

  3. Trina Pecina on January 16, 2018 at 6:46 AM

    I am also an ENFJ! Took this test in August of 2017 & again just now. Same results. Uncanny, as I felt that my mood was different & had chosen other answers. Apparently not. I also took a Strengthfinders personality test for a leadership group I am participating in this year. It has been a very informative year for me!! I would recommend any of these tests for being wanting to grow & discover their potential.

    • Kelly Pietrangeli on January 17, 2018 at 9:55 PM

      Hey we are kindered spirits Trina! I too felt like my answers were random but keep getting same result.
      I’ve got the Strengths Finder test now and will do that one next and see if that inspires another post. ????

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