Most busy mamas agree that there are just never enough hours in the day to get it all done. Can you relate?
Last week in my Monday Motivator newsletter I gave out this little written assignment to my lovely subscribers. Please join in!
Grab a piece of paper (or create a note on your phone) and write down three things you don’t have time for. Just the first three things that come to mind.
1. I don’t have time for _________________________________________.
2. I don’t have time for _________________________________________.
3. I don’t have time for _________________________________________.
Once you’ve done that, read on. (no peeking!)
(Pretend this space is some mellow holding music playing in the background as I wait for you to do this.)
(If there’s no way of writing them down right now, just think about what your three answers are. Get them clear in your mind.)
Here are some of the answers that my subscribers have emailed to tell me or have posted on the Project Me Facebook page:
seeing my friends
catching up on lost sleep
looking after my body
watching a film or reading a book
writing to my grandma
reading to the kids
writing a book
sorting out my tax papers
clearing out the closets
getting my hair done
creating iphoto albums
going for a run
finishing my accounts
keeping the downstairs hall clear and clean
tidying up the master bedroom
reading books or magazines for myself
getting a massage
shopping for me / buying new clothes
sitting down and playing with the kids
calling my mother
sitting down. Just sitting down!
Now put your answers to each of the three questions above into the blanks below:
1. _______________________________________ is not important to me.
2. _______________________________________ is not important to me.
3. _______________________________________ is not important to me.
Now – say your three new statements out loud, three times for each sentence.
Did that stir up any feelings?
Did any of them feel like icky/false statements? Could it be that maybe the opposite is true?
Usually the first three things we think of are in fact things that are very important to us. That’s why they came to mind so quickly!
They might be the very things that are eating away at you inside, making you feel guilty, frustrated or unfulfilled.
If the statement felt true and it really isn’t important to you, I wonder why you thought of it?
The point of this is help you recognise what matters to you and what you value.
When you ignore your values or put things that matter on the back burner for too long, you don’t feel good.
Forget about Time Management. This is Priority Management.
Take action: What’s one small step you can take this week towards prioritising what’s important to you?
If it needs scheduling in – just do it. If it needs figuring out – use an Ideas Into Action action sheet to get things moving. This sheet has a place to write down up to three different goals and then the first three steps you can take towards making them happen. Don’t try to figure this out in your head. The act of writing down what you want will slow down your busy brain and the answers will come to you. Try it and see what happens!
In the comments below, share at least one of your ‘I don’t have time for’ statements and tell me how you feel about it. Is it in fact important? Or is it something you can drop from your mind completely?
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