Are you tired of making goals that don’t stick? Do you start off with great intentions but soon slide back into old habits or get completely side tracked by the busyness of life?
Maybe you think you have goals…
‘I want to lose weight’, ‘I want to get organised’, ‘I want to make money’.
These aren’t goals, they’re wishes. Everybody has wishes.
So how do you transform a wish into a goal – and then bring it into your life?
We’re going to show you how, step by step in this 4-part blog series.
2014 is going to be YOUR year!
We’re hugely into goals because we have first hand experience of how powerful they are. We’ve learned what makes certain goals stick – and others not. And we’re excited to show you how to Design Your Year!
You’ll create successful goals that will make a positive difference to your everyday life.
This doesn’t have to be hiking the Pacific Crest Trail or running a marathon. (Although those are fine too!)
What about productivity goals that’ll help you feel more organised? Health goals that’ll make you stronger, fitter and looking hot on the beach by summer?
Perhaps you want to stop shouting at the kids, have some serious fun with your man or plan some new adventures. Or maybe you’ve got a business idea you’d love to get off the ground?
Not all goals are ‘doing’ goals. It’s also great to get clear about how you want to feel this coming year and find ways of making that happen.
Effective goal setting is a skill. It’s something you get better and better at with time and practice.
Every January for the last seven years, we’ve teamed up with our friend Anna to set our goals for the coming year. The three of us explore what’s worked and what hasn’t in each of our 8 Life Areas.
We look back on our previous year to celebrate our successes and explore the reasons for any backsliding. Based on what we’ve learned and how we want life to be – we then set clear goals for the year ahead.
Each year just gets better and better and we can see for ourselves how amazing this process is! (The concept of Project Me was the direct result of a January goal setting session.)
Your Design Your Year homework for week 1:
1. Print off your Life Wheel Tool.
If you haven’t got it yet, we’re still offering it for free right now – sign up below and we’ll send it to you now. (Be sure to check your junk folder if you don’t get it within a few minutes!)
2. Get yourself a dedicated notebook.
It’s important to have one specifically for this – that way you can look back each year and see where you’ve made progress or where you’re stuck.
3. Block off some ‘me-time’.
A couple of hours is ideal (or break it up into two sessions). This is crucial. Tell your family you need some uninterrupted time.
4. Do your Life Wheel exercise.
Use the prompts to rate each of your 8 Key Life Areas. Don’t expect a perfect balance – life’s just not like that, especially for busy mothers who have a lot more to think about than ourselves. If your wheel looks wobbly, it shows you where you need to set some goals that’ll make a real difference in the year ahead. Be honest with yourself and see where there’s room for improvement.
This exercise is not designed to make you feel bad or guilty. It’ll help you to start making positive changes. Your future self will thank your for it!
Our wheels were wonky too (and often still are). We were unorganised, overwhelmed, stressed, shouted at our kids, had a crap work-life balance, a bad diet and suffered from guilt over not being good enough.
Since we started Designing Our Year seven years ago – the transformation has been incredible.
5. It’s time for a braindump!
Write your lowest scoring life area on a fresh page in your notebook. Write some ideas on how you’d like that area to look and feel. Write freely, don’t overthink it – don’t worry about how you’re going to make it happen – just think about what you want. When you’re done, leave a couple of blank pages and do the same for your next life area. Keep going until you’ve done them all.
Well done for taking the first step on what’s going to be an amazing year ahead. Pat yourself on the back for investing this time in you. Next week we’ll help you turn your braindump into Goals That Rock!
In the comments below, tell us how excited you are on a scale of 1-10 about the year ahead. Feel free to share a goal or two with us so we can cheer you on!