Have you heard of Tapping yet? It’s also known as EFT: Emotional Freedom Technique.
You lightly tap certain points on your face and body to watch fears and anxiety disappear.
Sounds kind of woo-woo wacky, right? Read on…
I first heard about tapping when I watched a video about it by my business mentor Marie Forleo.
I found it fascinating but at the time I wasn’t experiencing any fears or anxiety, so I put it in my back pocket for another time.
Then a lovely Project Me follower, Diana Tower, got in touch to offer me a free Tapping for Mothers session via Skype. Diana specialises in helping overwhelmed, stressed out mamas clear their minds, get out of their own way and feel happier and calm. What I found particularly interesting is her ability to help mothers with fears and anxieties.
The timing was perfect. I had our annual family ski trip coming up and I knew I needed a strategy to help me cope.
Weirdly, my anxiety was getting worse every year and I risked passing on my fears to my kids as they witnessed me freeze up (and dissolve into tears) on the slopes.
We had our next ski trip to Switzerland in two weeks time and I suddenly decided NOW was the time to try this tapping thing!
And just one session was all I needed. It was some kind of small miracle.
After completing a pre-session survey, Diana had the information she needed to get started.
She advised me to have a box of tissues handy for when my emotions let loose, but nothing prepared me for how fast I’d turn into a blubbering mess!
She instinctively knew which questions to ask me to unearth my TRUE fears about skiing. Often it’s like peeling back an onion several layers until you get to the actual core of it all.
It turns out my fear of skiing was actually serving me an ulterior purpose.
With my eyes closed she guided me through the various tapping points on my face, chest and head. She gently asked me questions and once the floodgates opened I began putting two and two together about when these fears began and what they meant.
It all came out of me without even thinking about it. Soon instead of crying over skiing I was crying over how envious I was of my friend going to India every year during the same week as my ski trip. While I was suffering on cold icy slopes she was on warm sunny beach doing yoga!
Diana asked me how that made me feel.
Insanely jealous! Begrudging of my hubby who ‘makes me’ go skiing and doesn’t ‘let me’ do what I want to do.
Bingo. She switched tracks and began to explore my feelings of not getting to do what I want – and identifying what it is I do want.
It turns out I want desperately to go on a yoga retreat.
But I don’t ask for that because I feel too afraid to. I worry my husband will think I don’t want to be with him because I want to do something without him. (Well actually I’d love to go on a yoga retreat with him, but he’d hate that.)
Bingo! I have to go skiing because he wants me to enjoy skiing with him. But he would never go on a yoga holiday with me. Deep underlying resentment I was not even aware of which was manifesting itself into an actual fear of skiing.
The fear was serving me! It was my subconscious fighting for my right to do what I want to do.
Next she guided me through tapping to give myself permission to ask for what I want. To find my voice and the right words to tell him how I feel in a way he will respect. Our marriage is so good that it seems I’m afraid to do something that will mess things up.
By this time I was full blown Ugly Crying.
But Diana tapped me out the other side and by the end of our session, I felt lighter. Like a huge load had been lifted.
I gave myself full permission to enjoy our family ski trip. I didn’t need to be afraid anymore.
And you know what? It was our best ski week ever. I felt confident. No more tears! I decided how long I wanted to ski each day and took a day off when visibility wasn’t good without feeling ashamed about it.
Now I’m looking for a great yoga retreat…. (I ran an amazing Project Me retreat in Ibiza, but it’s my turn to be the guest!)
What anxieties and fears are holding you back?
Tapping helps you to recognise what’s really behind it. Bringing it up to the surface means you can acknowledge it – then release it. That’s why it’s called Emotional FREEDOM Technique. It frees you up!
I now tap on my own anytime I’m feeling stressed-out or anxious, but I still call on Diana for help in shifting the heavier stuff.
She successfully helps mothers get over fears and anxieties in their relationships as well as general ‘I’m not good enough’ or ‘I’m not cut out for motherhood’ kinda crap.
Diana Tower, the founder of colouryourmindset.com helps overwhelmed, stressed out mamas clear their minds and get their relation-shit together after having kids.
Diana is a guest expert in my goal setting courses and helps mothers get past emotional blocks that get in the way of reaching their goals. Her free bonuses for my course participants are incredible! Find out details of the next goals course here.
In the comments below, let Diana and I know what you think. Have you ever tried Tapping or is this the first you’ve heard of it? Which fears or anxieties would you like to be free from?
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