I often think of motherhood as similar to diving into the waves at the beach.
You have your first baby, plunging head first into the waves from the shore. Whilst you’re under the water swimming and surviving you forget all about your ‘old self’.
After a few months of newborn mayhem, you come up to the surface and take a big gulp of fresh air. You make an effort to wave at your ‘old self’ waiting patiently on the beach.
Then baby two comes and you’re fully submerged in the water again, surviving, swimming, out of control and forgetting all about who you were. Baby three and four, on it goes.
Then all of a sudden your kids are walking, talking, out of nappies, going to kinder and then eventually stepping into the big world of school.
Your little people are gaining independence and so are you.
Slowly you find your feet sinking back into the sand, walking back towards the shore, slightly invigorated, inspired and excited to go and reconnect with your ‘old self’.
As you raise your eyes to focus on the beach, your skin drying in the sunshine – you look out across the sand and your ‘old self’ is no-where to be seen.
Where did you go? Who are you now?
All you’ve done for the past few years is talk about, think about, cook for, wash, dress, pamper, hug, kiss and cuddle your beautiful kids. It’s the way you’re hard wired so it’s no surprise you’re feeling a little disconnected from who you once were. You’ve lost yourself somewhere along the way.
Let’s face it, when your little ones are finding independence and you’re barely able to remember what life was like before they came along, it can be a little scary. How did you spend your time? How did you earn money? What used to occupy your brain?
You could just plod back to the corporate cubicle you used to inhabit, but somehow that no longer appeals.
Something new has been born within you, a fresh perspective on life.
Maybe you’re feeling ready to take some first steps back into work life but in a more meaningful and passionate way.
The truth is you owe it to your kids to spend your life doing work that you love. The likelihood is they’ll look to you, your choices and follow in your footsteps.
The perfect opportunity is here right now to work for yourself, doing something you love, while creating a flexible life that works for you and your kids.
In today’s world, setting up an online business makes sense. (click to tweet)
You can work from home, choose your own hours, take holidays without asking permission and if you have a sick kid at home you won’t feel guilty for taking a day off. Plus it’ll feel great to contribute to the family income again.
No need for a large set up budget or technical skills to get to grips with creating a website and social media presence. It’s all just a learning curve.
Here’s your small steps action plan to get you off the starting blocks:
1. Ask your loved ones these questions:
What do I do with ease? When do I shine? What am I good at?
2. Now ask yourself these questions:
What could I happily do all day without noticing the time? What would I do if money were no object?
3. Get inspired:
Put some headphones on and play some music that makes your heart sing. Exercise at the same time. Get your heart pumping, feel alive again and open your heart. With a head full of natural endorphins you are naturally in a more creative and inspired state of mind.That is when the ideas and clarity come.
Take yourself on a research journey via the web. See how other people are making money online by using their skills and helping others. You will be amazed how many women are starting their own solo business. Immerse yourself in finding out how others are doing it.
I hope this gets your cogs turning about a possible online business that fits in with your life and your family.
In the comments below, throw your questions at me about starting an online business or what’s holding you back from taking some first steps. I’m here to help.
Mixing practicality with self-awareness, Kelly helps mothers get on top of their endless to-do’s, set goals and improve their lives one small step at a time.
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