Long summer breaks can be a bag of mixed emotions. On the one hand there’s sweet freedom from early morning starts, rushing and routines. Eating breakfast in your PJ’s. Lunch and dinner whenever anyone’s hungry. Letting the kids live in the same swim suit for days on end. (Hey – it saves on laundry.)
On the flip-side, you’re on full-time mama duty. Your normal daily schedule’s thrown totally out of whack and you’re missing that vital me time. One day morphs into another and after a while you’ve completely lost the plot.
A few years ago I decided not to let the summer holidays feel like a roller coaster ride of happiness and hassles. I broke out my notebook and created a strategy for my Best Summer Yet.
And it worked! Getting clear about what I actually wanted was the key to guiding it in the right direction. It’s become an annual ritual and my summers keep getting better and better.[more]
I’ve always thought of introverts as being wallflowers. Shy, quiet and preferring their own company.
I’m certainly no wallflower. I’ve got plenty of friends, have a very loud voice and have been known to dance on tables after a few tequilas.
But I’ve got introverted tendencies that have taken me years to understand.[more]
Anyone else go all weak at the knees about stationery? Highlighter pens, Post-It notes, paper clips and notebooks – I’m a kid in a candy store in a shop that sells funky, colourful supplies.
Combine that with my love fill-in-the-blank worksheets and I’m in my own kind of bliss.
The concept of this very website came out of my idea to create a binder folder with colour coded tabbed sections for each area of my life.
I figured it was kind of like project managing a new house build with organised sections for plumbing, electricity, interior design and outdoor landscaping.
My life needed sorting out in so many different areas, so I broke it down into – family, health, personal growth, fun, money, etc.
I felt a Project ME coming on….
Naturally I headed off to buy some supplies![more]
Are you lacking meaningful friendships? Do you miss having friends you can confide in? Or ones you can let your hair down with and just have a good laugh?
Maybe you’ve moved somewhere new and are starting all over again with making new local friends?
Did great friendships feel easier to come by when you were younger?
Back then, those crucial ingredients for making close friends were all in place: proximity, repeated, unplanned interactions, and a setting that encourages you to let your guard down and show your true self. This is why so many people meet their lifelong friends at university. (There’s nothing like a keg party to bring people close together!)
Once you get married and have kids it’s easy to get caught up in family life and let old friendships take a back seat. In many cases jobs take us away and replant us in new places where the process of making local friends means starting over from scratch.
Meaningful friendships are vitally important. Experts say that friendship has an even greater effect on health than a spouse or family member. Having strong social bonds is probably the most meaningful contributor to happiness and those with who have supportive friends are more likely to lose weight, get a new job or pursue their goals.[more]
These days Business Masterminds are the big thing. But what about a Personal Mastermind?
Getting together with a friend regularly for the ‘soul’ purpose of goal setting, brainstorming and supporting each other through life’s ups and downs is one of the most positive ways to take action and move forward in life.
This can take place in person over a coffee, or even online using Skype or Google Hangouts.
Seven years ago I formed a Power Posse with my friends Suzie and Anna. They didn’t yet know each other but we’d all attended a series of life coaching workshops and wanted a way of keeping on top of the changes we’d begun to make. We were looking for accountability – and boy did we find it.
We had no idea then that we were onto something so life changing.[more]
Do you ever have weeks that feel like a roller coaster? Up and down, up and down – and sometimes loop de loop!
It’s a good thing I love roller coasters because these past couple of weeks have been one crazy ride.
My fab biz partner Suzie left Project Me. And I was down.
Then all of the positive words of support came flooding in via email, phone calls and comments under the blog. (Thank you!) I was back up again!
Then I faced big challenges in creating the sales page and all of the other working parts that go into the upcoming Power Pal Pack. I feel like I’ve been working on this for ever and I’d desperately wanted to launch it now. Down again.
So I decided to do something I knew [more]
Think about the friends you spend the most time with and how you feel directly after seeing them.
Buzzing and elated, still smiling from something funny they’ve said? Inspired to try something they’ve recommended? Grateful they’ve been a good listener and helped you gain some perspective on a problem?
Or were you the sounding board for their latest life drama? Did they draw you into gossip? Criticise you, make you feel stupid? Or maybe you didn’t get a word in edgewise (again). Did they ask you for yet another favour? (Which is rarely returned.) Or did they flake out on you completely?
Research shows that the quality of your friendships is one of the most important factors in determining your happiness and overall mental health.
With family stuff taking up so much of your time and energy, you need to invest in the friendships that nourish you and spend less time and energy on those that don’t.[more]
It’s easy to let the demands of motherhood tip you in one direction, leaving other parts of your life sitting on the back burner.
You don’t realise you’re neglecting your self care – even when you become overwhelmed and short fused. You don’t see that your man needs attention, until you start drifting apart. Without enough fun, friends or personal growth – you get into a total rut. Take your eye off the ball with finances, organising or cleaning – and suddenly you’re in a deep mess.
So how can a busy mama find a better balance in life when there’s always so much that needs attention?
First you have to know, balance is not about giving the same amount of energy to all areas of your life simultaneously. It’s more about being aware of what needs your focus at any given time and recognising the symptoms of feeling out of balance before things get out of hand.
It’s all too easy to let some areas of your life fall off the radar completely while you’re too busy with everything else.
The good news is, I have the key to helping you get back into balance fast. [more]
Get real. Your PC (post children) social life is not going to look the same as those BC (before children) days, when your biggest decision was where to go for brunch or which movie to see.
But your fun doesn’t have to be limited to takeaway and a night in front of the telly. Put down the remote control, get your bum off the sofa and prepare to re-boot your social life.