How often do you tell yourself that you ‘should’ do something?
I should call my mother.
I should bake something for the bake sale.
I should tackle that mountain of paperwork.
I should turn off my phone and get to sleep.
Notice too how often you ‘must’ be doing something?
I must get to the gym.
I must shave my legs.
I must start dinner.
I must take the dog for a walk.
Obviously you do have responsibilities and obligations and there are plenty things you must and should do. But there’s also a lot of unnecessary ‘musterbating’ and ‘shoulding’ on yourself. You can end up feeling like your whole life is one boooooring obligation after another.
‘Should’ makes you feel guilty, disinterested, bored and possibly even resentful.
How about replacing ‘should’ with a word that feels better:
Notice the subtle shift when ‘must’ and ‘should’ are turned into ‘could’.[more]